2020 Ended, So We Review, Reset, And Hope For The Future

The Day We Locked Down

I will never forget St. Patrick’s Day, Tuesday, March 17, 2020. Our usual plans to meet up with friends and raise a glass, in a fun Irish pub were put on the calendar but never executed. As the news reports of rising cases of Covid-19 flooded every television channel, and shelves at the grocery store started to go bare, I realized we were going into a lock down and going nowhere. On his way home from work, my husband stopped at the market and the liquor store. We made our own St. Paddy’s Day party at home. Just the two of us.

Later In The Spring

As the months progressed and the numbers of infected rose, every day became blursday. I filled the time making Zoom calls with loved ones, looking for ways to keep my freelance career alive, and getting outside a few times a day to get exercise with my dog, Coco. I have always loved to cook, but with the lockdown, it became the main event of my day. I joined an online bake club to level-up my pastry game and even baked a sourdough from scratch. I felt like a boss. But, as the spring dragged on, events and invitations, my daughters’ college graduation, my family vacation, my annual get-togethers were all cancelled. When I did see friends we tried our best to remain six feet apart outdoors and take the least amount of risk – trying to connect in person. It was taking a toll on us in different ways.

We Let Our Guard Down In The Fall

At the beginning of fall we became empty-nesters not for a semester but for the foreseeable future. Our daughters moved in together and started their life after college . They rented their own apartment and began to navigate their own work from home routines. After that, we let our guard down and loosened up a bit. We met with friends who were also keeping their circles small and had a long weekend camping out in nature. We hiked, hung-out by a bonfire, and enjoyed spending time together. We were the only ones at our campsite. I grabbed the chance to have some weekend getaways, mostly for work, but also for my sanity. Each time it was a risk but low risk in terms of exposure. 

Fall Camping Trip With Great Friends

As Thanksgiving came around, the numbers from Corona spiked again and our world seemed to be right back where we started. I was fortunate to have good friends lend us their home near my daughters’ apartment for Thanksgiving. The house was a gift for the long weekend. We could have spent a day or two in their small apartment, but the house gave us the room to spend more time. The kitchen  provided a place where we could cook a small turkey and enjoy our holiday meal. The rural neighborhood provided a place to get some fresh air and a walk in the sunshine.

Christmas at Home

New Year’s Eve , Just Us Four

The girls returned home for Christmas, but again, we cancelled large gatherings and kept it just us four. That was hard for us, so we Zoom called our family and wished each other Merry Christmas instead. We wanted to share time on the day, and while it wasn’t in person, it helped. On New Year’s Eve we ate take-out, played games, laughed and spent time hoping for better days. Even breaking out into a dance party after the ball dropped. We made the best of staying home and spending time together.

Reflect and Reset 

I take long walks and reflect a lot now. It’s January and the start of the new year. I don’t want to look back but I do, and I remember all the events since March. Then I review my hopes for 2021. I didn’t make resolutions on the first, I made wishes, hopes, dreams, and goals. I repeat them like silent prayers. I can’t say what the future holds, because none of us saw any of the last part of 2020 coming. During my walks, I choose to focus on the silver linings of the past few months and I keep focusing on the positives. I discovered that there were many.

My reset now is to propel myself forward into what will be and make future plans. I want to make time for physical and mental health which includes spending time outdoors walking, biking, or hiking. Outdoor activities keep me sharp and increase my focus and keep me positive. I’d stalled because I spent too much time inside watching and listening to the toxic news. I had no choice, but I know I have to limit that for my creative spirit to thrive. I realized there are ways to feel less helpless and more hopeful. As January starts to close, these are my wishes, hopes, dreams, and goals as I start my new year –

I wish the world would heal. My silent prayer – let’s work together to end Covid, so we can reunite in person.

I hope we can unite as a nation and as a world. My silent prayer – let’s work together on the problems we face, so we can all feel safe and respected.

I dream and believe we will return with an appreciation for the time we spent away from each other and the moments we had to postpone. My silent prayer – let’s make the time we have together meaningful.

And, my goal will be to travel to see more of the world and its infinite beauty. It is in my DNA and my soul.

Dining Out After Quarantine

Sauvage in Brooklyn, New York

I used to eat at restaurants at least twice a week before the Pandemic. Partly for my job as a reviewer and partly for the enjoyment. I loved gathering with my people around a shared food experience. During the week, I would try a new restaurant, and then create a blog post about the service, the ambiance, and the meal. 

Croque Monsieur from a blog post about Cargot, Restaurant.

On the weekends, my husband and I would go out for dinner either on a date or with friends. I would take photos of my cocktails or food, and later, write about the beautiful creations from the bar or kitchen. When traveling, I would seek out the unique spots that offered top-notch local dining. It is my job, a favorite pastime, and I miss it.

KO Modern Korean Cuisine. One of my favorite spots in Newtown, PA.

The Pandemic has changed all of our lives in so many ways. Traveling is diminished or discouraged for the foreseeable future, and eating out is fraught with risks, especially if the appropriate protocols aren’t in place. While many of my friends have ordered take-out to support local venues, they are not rushing to get back to a restaurant.

As some states are getting the go-ahead to re-open, I was scared to go back out there, but I felt the urge to try. I read up on what was opening nearby and decided the time was right to dine alfresco. I made sure to be mindful of the directives from the state and health professionals, and slowly returned to outdoor dining. I visited a few restaurants recently, and I wanted to share my thoughts and experiences.

Outdoor Dining at Lambertville Station, Lambertville, New Jersey

Last month I made a choice to support my local haunts in New Jersey and Pennsylvania. I wanted to feel somewhat normal again. I hate the term new normal, but as much as I looked forward to it, it has become an experience that feels strange and somewhat disconcerting. It all depends on your comfort level, and I respect everyone’s decision to do what’s best for them. 

While new policies are in place, some of the protocols work better than others. I appreciate scanning the menu on my phone instead of handling one, even if it is wiped down. I am not comfortable handling a menu, even a paper menu, offered at one restaurant. I felt like it was a waste and I wondered if it had been used before. My daughter is a server this summer. At the gastropub where she works, they announce a limited menu and airdrop the cocktail list if you have a smartphone.

Properly spaced tables and waitstaff wearing masks.

Trying to wear my mask whenever the server appears is difficult, especially if I am sipping a drink or taking a bite. I read that it’s just polite to mask up when waitstaff visits the table.

I asked my daughter what she thinks about this. She accepts that many don’t wear a mask when she approaches the table but feels that if you can wear your mask (if you are not eating or drinking), she appreciates the gesture. It makes her feel safer.

Indoor dining is out of my comfort zone, and I am not willing to eat inside yet. But, if you feel ready, many states are offering inside seating. I reserved and requested a table outside recently and was offered one inside with plenty of space between the tables. I didn’t hesitate to say I preferred to eat on the porch, even though the air conditioning inside felt terrific. If proper spacing and safety protocols are in place (servers wearing masks, and touchpoints wiped down between patrons) outdoor dining can be pleasant but it’s certainly different.

Round Trip to Paris – a crafted cocktail from the Salt House, New Hope, PA.

There is no indoor dining at my daughter’s restaurant, where I ate last week. The building is a charming historic house, but the space inside is tight. Instead, diners are seated in their own cabana outdoors, because the patio is too small for ample spacing between tables. It’s a perfect solution to help patrons feel relaxed and in their own bubble. Tables outdoors should have accommodations similar to this. I have seen partitions when space is limited. It feels safer than having too many people packed in a small area outside with no type of barrier.

To ensure that you have a table, you need to reserve one at a specific time. Gone are the days when you can show up to see if you can squeeze in. Thank goodness we don’t have to wait in the crowded foyer or grab a drink while we remain at the bar these days. Your table is waiting because reservations are required. More importantly, to make sure there is time to wipe the table and chairs down before it is reset. 

Outdoor dining on a beautiful day at Lambertville Station Restaurant.

Unfortunately, if you are dining outdoors, the weather is a factor now. We canceled a reservation because of tropical storm Fay. I feel bad for the establishment. They hire waitstaff and order food in the hopes of making money during this time but cannot seat you if the weather turns. They suggest you order take-out instead. If you choose an expensive spot, especially for a special occasion, you may not want to pay the same price to bring the food home. Make sure you know the cancellation policy ahead of time. Some restaurants ask for a credit card to hold your table and charge a fee if you cancel without proper notice or don’t show. 

Tipping is extra essential now, so be generous if the service is attentive. I tip well because I used to work in restaurants during college, and always appreciated generous tips because I needed the money. I try to pay that forward. If you feel the service or the food is not up to par, tip accordingly. Being a server now is challenging, and these folks are willing to wear a mask to serve you. Take care of them because they are working harder in harsher conditions. Eating out was always a luxury, but if it is more expensive now, I understand, and I am willing to pay a bit more for the opportunity.

Is it worth it to take the risk to eat out now? That is up to the individual, and their choices should not be judged. I feel ready, but I also want to feel secure when I am dining out. I appreciate all the extra attention that many places are putting forth to help us have a respite during these difficult times. I wish we could go back to life as we knew it, but we can’t. We can just adjust, adapt, and move forward.

A Love Letter to Travel Food

Mulled Wine Booth at the Christmas Markets in Munich, Germany

They say travel is food for the soul, but what about the food that you discover while traveling? You know, that meal that stays with you long after the trip is over. The tantalizing pictures collected on your phone of those incredible bites while touring. I know about those; I have several foodie photos on my phone. When I want to go back to a particular trip, I review the shots, and I am there. I was in Munich a few “days” ago reviewing the mouth-watering snaps of my family and I nibbling our way through the stalls at the Christmas market, tasting some of the incredible specialties from gingerbread to sausages.

My work as a writer requires me to eat out a lot. Those restaurant experiences are woven into articles. I write about where to dine and where to explore and stay in a particular location. I recommend spots travelers should visit to enjoy a fantastic meal. Whenever I travel, I make sure to dive into the street foods or seek out local haunts that really showcase the flavor of a place. Unfortunately, it hasn’t been possible lately. When the pandemic shut down borders and businesses, I became paralyzed watching our world go through the unthinkable.

The Lambertville House Review from The Yums

I needed to find a way to change my mindset. With all the restaurants closed, I returned to my love of creating food at home. I scoured websites looking for recipes and made a list of ingredients to whip up favorites from my travels. Cooking and baking became a way for me to manage my anxiety and lose myself in a favorite hobby. I focused on making everything from scratch. With the quarantine, I had plenty of time to attempt more complicated, multi-step recipes.

Blues City Cafe, Memphis, TN

I was scrolling through photos this week and stopped to look at a few from October on my trip to Memphis, Tennessee. I traveled for a food and wine festival, and I remembered the tasty barbeque ribs seasoned perfectly with a dry rub from Blues City Café. After learning that May is National BBQ month, I decided to make my own. I checked the freezer and discovered I had boneless ribs. After a quick recipe search, the pork was prepped to be roasted and later covered with a spicy homemade barbeque sauce. Thank goodness for those grocery runs because I had a stocked pantry with all the ingredients.

Spicy homemade barbecue sauce
My own version of Pad Thai

I had initially planned to make Pad Thai. I ate the delicious dish at Jay’s on Third last summer, and I wanted to try to copy it. Jay’s, an Asian Fusion restaurant in Stone Harbor, New Jersey, serves an authentic version. Chef Jason Hippen recreates his mother’s recipe for the famous street food. The flavors are incredible; a squeeze of bright lime juice over tender rice noodles, mixed with a salty-sweet sauce and perfectly prepared shrimp. It’s an homage to Thailand from his kitchen. If I can’t travel there, at least I can visit through his food. I couldn’t choose between the ribs or Pad Thai, so I made them both.

Two loaves of homemade sourdough bread

Later this week, I began dreaming up a new challenge. I am more of a cook than a baker, but I decided to jump on the sourdough bandwagon and attempt bread. Amongst the pandemic preparation, I bought a coveted bag of flour and scored some yeast. After reviewing a bunch of recipes, I found an easy “starter” and began the journey. I found a bread recipe that received five stars, so I figured that it was the one to try. The method had 25 different steps (talk about time-consuming). At one point, you have to work the dough every 30 minutes for two and a half hours. Between the resting and the prepping, I was at it all day. But when my loaves emerged from the oven, they were gorgeous. Once cooled, the flavor brought me back to San Francisco, where I tasted an incredible sourdough at the Ferry Plaza Farmer’s Market at the Embarcadero.

I am a foodie to the core. I miss travel so much; I am willing to make anything that will bring me back to my favorite meals from my travels. As I write this, I think it might be time to use the rest of my flour for fresh pasta. I can’t forget that unforgettable plate I tried in Tuscany.

Social Distance and Silver Linings

I looked back at my calendar the other day and realized I had hit my sixth week of social distancing since the Corona Virus changed our daily lives. During this time, I have experienced every emotion from worry, to hope, about the state of our entire world.

There are days when I just want to wake up from this collective nightmare and go out without thinking about the danger and continually washing everything down with Clorox wipes. I miss the simple things, like visits with friends for coffee, trying a new restaurant, or heading out to a movie. At times I hit a low, and then I remember to count my blessings.

My family members are safe in various cities, both near and far. I am quarantining with my husband, who is employed and working from home. And, while I am not technically able to work like I used to, my days are filled with opportunities and silver linings. With an abundance of time, I have found ways to sharpen my skills or just stay in sweatpants and binge an entertaining show on TV. With a lot of time, I can decide how to spend it.

Cooking on Instagram Live With Christina Tosi

I love movies. Thanks to Focus Features, I streamed the first-run production of Emma at home. In a unique offering, a recipe was posted on Instagram for a Victorian Sponge. I always loved baking, but it isn’t something I do often. I found it therapeutic to challenge myself, and the results were delicious. It gave me the courage to follow celebrity Pastry Chef Christina Tosi on Instagram and join her baking club. She shows up every day at 2:00 pm to teach anyone who shows up. I look forward to baking with her as often as I can.

I take daily long walks with my dog, and one day, I was treated to the first beginnings of spring as the colors exploded in my neighborhood. It’s impressive when you can look around and take in the beauty of your surroundings. I breathed deeply and paused to experience the splendor.

I have the time and the energy it takes to cook again. I prepare dinner every night and have rediscovered my passion for cooking with and without recipes. It feels nourishing to eat healthy meals and enjoy them with my husband. We set the table, open wine, and savor the experience of being together at the end of the day.

I tried to level – up and learn new skills. I found webinars and Zoom calls to learn about the travel industry so that when this ends, I will have a bank of knowledge to work from. I also connected with friends and family via those apps and felt a sense of connection in having the face to face sessions. It helped to lessen the loneliness.

Instagram Training With Carla Biesinger

I found free opportunities to tour museums, places around the world and even ride the FROZEN ride at Epcot virtually. I am a travel addict, and with the help of these opportunities, I was allowed to travel again.

No one knows what the world will look like in a few months, but I am thankful for the silver linings. I am eternally grateful for the healthcare workers (including my friends) on the front line. I am also thankful for the selfless people who soldier on while the rest of us wait for the pandemic to end. I pray for those who lost loved ones and who are suffering from illness or loneliness, and I am keeping the faith that we will see this end soon. Stay safe and healthy and stay home.

A Celebration Amidst Social Distancing


I love the energy and excitement of crowds and the camaraderie that we experience when America shares a celebration. Being an Italian American, I never thought it was weird when my mom made corned beef and cabbage every March 17th or thought I didn’t belong when a group of my friends skipped school on St. Patrick’s Day when we were in high school. We walked across the George Washington Bridge senior year and hopped on the downtown subway to watch the famous New York City parade make its way down 5th Avenue. I marveled at the pageantry and the bagpipers. I completely subscribe to the saying, that everyone is Irish on St. Patrick’s Day.

When March approaches, I start to get excited about the prospect of spring but also about St. Patrick’s Day events. Thanks to several friends of Irish heritage, I fell in love with the traditions. I enjoy the music and the rhythm of step dancing. I adore a meal of corned beef, potatoes, and cabbage, and I cherish raising glasses of cheer with my friends, clinking glasses and saying, Slainte!

On March 17th, I always wear a traditional Aran Island knit sweater that a friend gave me years ago from her vacation in Ireland. My husband and I plan a trip there this August to experience the kind people and the beauty of the Emerald Isle.  And, to fulfill our bucket list items of hitting the links and seeing the Cliffs of Moher.

Unfortunately, this year, a virus took the world by storm.  We were asked to observe social distancing. Parades around the United States were canceled, and Americans were asked to gather in groups of no more than ten. Bars and restaurants closed for the time being while we all try to stop the spread of the insidious Corona Virus plaguing the world. Travel to and from the United States has halted and advisories went out to have at least two-weeks of provisions at home.


My friend Mela and I were commiserating on the phone about the state of things when she shared with me that her family of six would all be under the same roof on March 18th. She would make sure that “Lucky” would arrive a day late. You see, “Lucky”  appears magically on the morning of St. Patrick’s Day to turn everything in her home green. For breakfast, the milk and OJ are green, and most of the food items are green. Of course, they serve green Lucky Charms too. “Lucky” turns the water in the toilet bowls green and hides a pot of gold somewhere in the house filled with chocolate coins and occasionally gold dollars. Sometimes he leaves trinkets too, like a shamrock charm for a bracelet or shamrock socks. It all depends on what he can bring each year.


Of all the St. Patrick’s Day traditions, I love this one most of all. Mela goes all out, and her girls (the youngest a junior in high school) have grown up with “Lucky” their whole lives. “Lucky” is akin to Santa, as everyone believes he is real (wink wink), but if you don’t believe, you don’t receive. As a family of six, Mela waited until they were all under one roof, and then he magically appeared to spread joy for St. Patrick’s Day, one day late.

In this tense time, while people are scared and life as we know it grinds to a halt, I am thrilled that “Lucky” visited the Montgomery family to bring on the green this year. Two daughters saw their semesters and their sports seasons cut short, another, a freshman, had just joined a sorority, was making friends, and had to leave her new school abruptly. The youngest, a junior in high school, had her prom, and her SAT canceled.

You don’t have to travel anywhere to experience culture. You can enjoy it at home with the people you love and the traditions you hold dear.  Who knows, maybe “Lucky” will grant me a wish to see my country heal from this scourge and open up world – travel soon so we can see his beautiful land in person.



Isn’t It Romantic? A Valentine’s Day Getaway That Nearly Killed Me



Before Airbnb became a go-to for planning a quick trip, many people visited a bookstore. Of course, there were travel agencies, but if you wanted to travel on the cheap, you purchased a book to learn more about your destination. I know it sounds like ancient history, but the year was 1991, and people didn’t use the internet for everything yet.

My roommate and friend from college worked in a major publishing firm in New York City. She brought home a stack of free books from the extras cart (a perk of the job) and plopped them on our coffee table. As we looked them over, one particular volume piqued my interest. It was a book about romantic bed and breakfasts in New England. I had been dating my boyfriend (now husband) Tony for around nine months, and we were in the early stage of falling in love. It was almost Valentine’s Day, and I was dreaming about a romantic escape.

I was curious about the book, so I started leafing through the pages. As I read, I became really interested in a charming place in Jefferson, New Hampshire. It was pretty far north and near theWhite Mountains, but the description made it sound ideal. It was a restored farmhouse that boasted homemade quilts covering the beds, gourmet breakfasts, and a roaring fireplace in the living room. The nearby White mountains offered both downhill and cross-country skiing. I was a skier, and the slopes had tons of snow that winter. I had visions of a white wonderland and snuggling by the fire après ski. I pitched the trip to Tony, and he liked the idea. He was not a downhill skier, though, so we decided to try cross-country skiing instead. Neither of us had tried that before.

On the Friday of Valentine’s Day weekend, we drove our rental car six hours up to Jefferson. It started off well, we had fun talking about our work week and just catching up. But, as we got off the main highways and made our way onto the less-traveled roads, it became totally dark. Then we hit a blizzard. The snow started falling pretty heavily, and our conversation became tense. I could tell Tony was getting nervous about the weather, and we were still about an hour away from our destination. It was late, the roads were scary, and it was a stressful start to the weekend.

The next morning, the sun was up, and the rays glinted off the fresh blanket of snow. It was just as I had hoped. Our hosts were lovely, and the farmhouse was warm and inviting. At breakfast, they poured us piping hot coffee and served a delicious breakfast. I still remember that gigantic puffy pancake called a Dutch Baby.

Our host gave us directions to the ski rental shop. We rented equipment and grabbed a map for the cross-country trails nearby. I had my ski jacket and gloves, but Tony had never skied before. He jumped in the car right from work and didn’t pack anything waterproof. He used his tweed overcoat and Brooks Brothers leather gloves. We were cracking up. I asked him how he was going to manage without the right gear. He laughed and said he would be fine.

As we started on the trail (around 9:00 am) we never thought to buy water or snacks, we just parked our car and started our day. We were full after breakfast and only planned to ski until lunchtime. Several hours later, probably around 3:00 pm, we were lost, tired, and hungry. At least I wasn’t cold. By a stroke of good fortune, we met up with some skiers from the Amherst College cross country team. They were shocked when we told them that we were lost and didn’t pack provisions. I don’t know what they thought of Tony’s outfit or my fur headband that I thought was super cute at the time. We looked ridiculous. Tony thought it would be fun to call me Svetlana because of my headband, and I guess he must have called me that in front of the ski team. Next thing I knew, they were talking to me and calling me Svetlana too.

They helped us find our way and pointed us in the direction of the trail that would lead back to the trailhead. After trekking for hours up and down hills in the forest on those narrow skis, I began to lose hope. My will gave out, and I couldn’t take another step. In a dramatic moment, I collapsed on the ground and whimpered, “Leave me here. I can’t go on.” Tony just laughed and said, “Jeanine, get up the car is right there!” I sat up and saw the car we left that morning. We finally got back and got our equipment off. Then we laughed so hard we stopped breathing. The hunger from not eating since breakfast and basically burning a million calories that day led us to a local diner just down the road.

The waitress asked us what we wanted. We ordered five or six appetizers and two dinner platters. She looked amazed, but we ate it ALL. That weekend was our first attempt as spending time as a new couple. It had its highs and low, but that trip bonded us. Luckily we didn’t break up. Instead, we laughed and were grateful that we made it out of the forest in one piece.  It has become a legend in our book of stories about our life together and it reminds us of why we love each other so much. We were just two crazy kids trying to figure out if we had what it took to make our relationship last.

We tell that story to our friends and our kids and still laugh so hard we can hardly breathe. “What were we thinking? What were we wearing? Why didn’t we pack snacks? The shrieks of laughter bring us to tears. We still have a sense of adventure, and we love to explore, but from now on, we bring drinks and snacks.

The Stanley Hotel in Estes, Park Colorado – A Ghostly Travel Tale



 I don’t know when I first enjoyed hearing a good ghost story. Maybe it was when I went to summer camp around the time I was ten years old. Toward the end of the week, the counselors took us on a hike into the woods for a campfire. As we sat by the fire, the different cabins sang songs and put on skits. Later, we roasted marshmallows, and eventually, one of the counselors would tell us spooky stories. When we got back to our cabin, we were all sugared up from the s’mores. Instead of going to sleep, the girls and I stayed up even later to continue sharing to try to be the scariest storyteller.

Into my later teens, I loved heading to the movies to see horror films or read scary novels about hauntings. One night, I remember being scared out of my mind when a few of my girlfriends and I were invited to check out an abandoned quarry about a half-hour drive from our town. We agreed and piled into this large Buick to search for the hidden compound where half-dead souls were said to hide-out in the abandoned buildings. The legend we heard was that anyone captured trespassing on the property would be held captive – never to be seen again. We pulled down the gravel driveway past the “No Trespassing” sign. The older boys, especially the driver, were out to tease us. He pretended that the car battery had died and that he couldn’t start the car. I remember my girlfriends and I freaking out and begging to get out of there. I almost started crying. Then they guys busted out laughing, and we took off as they cackled with delight.

What is it about traveling toward the scary or supernatural that both terrifies and delights us? I know more than one friend who loves an enjoyable ghost tour or haunted experience while on vacation. That is why on my recent trip to Estes Park, I had to stop in and visit the Stanley Hotel.

The Stanley Hotel

The Stanley is a grand historic hotel that was built in 1909. Allegedly, it is one of the most haunted locations in the United States. While no one actually died in the hotel, it is said to be built on an ancient Native American burial ground, and that ghostly events happen regularly. In fact, Stephen King got the inspiration for his famous novel, The Shining, after staying one night in room 217.

It is said that King and his wife got stranded due to a snowstorm just outside Rocky Mountain National Park, near the Stanley Hotel. At the time, the hotel was preparing to close for the season, as it did not remain open in the dead of winter. When Mr. King and his wife asked for a room, they were the only guests that evening. King had a dreadful nightmare and woke-up to a brilliant plot. It later became the inspiration for his bestselling novel.

Ghost Stories

The hotel is famous for being a historic landmark and for having a lot of paranormal activity. It is said that the original proprietor, F.O. Stanley (who died in 1940) has been seen working at the front desk. His late wife, Flora, can be heard playing the piano in the massive ballroom on the main floor in the late hours of the evening.

The fourth floor, formerly the area where children and nannies were expected to sleep, used to be a cavernous space. After a renovation, it was divided into individual guest rooms. Reports of children laughing and running up and down the hallways have become part of the paranormal legends in the hotel. There is also a head housekeeper, Mrs. Wilson, who died of natural causes some years ago. Mrs. Wilson regularly folds clothes and puts shoes in order in guest rooms. Unmarried patrons have told staff that they felt a cold presence between them in their bed. The proprietors chalk it up to Mrs. Wilson’s old-fashioned values.

A Short Visit

This December, we flew to Fort Collins, Colorado to stay with family for Christmas. It was unusually warm for early winter, so we decided to take a hike in Rocky Mountain National Park. After hiking a three-mile trail my family and I decided to visit the famous Stanley Hotel and eat a late lunch. I had heard that it was a haunted hotel and much like my younger self, I wanted to see what all the fuss was about. As we entered, I walked around the lobby and admired the grandeur of the restored hotel. I even took a walk up the impressive center staircase and observed the portraits of Mr. and Mrs. Stanley and other famous people from the past. While I admit that I found the pictures creepy, I didn’t get the feeling that I was surrounded by ghosts. I joined my family in the Whisky Bar, and we ordered some snacks and drinks.

After we paid the check, I wanted to explore a bit more, so I walked past the photo wall of famous people who stayed or performed in the hotel over the years. I loved the history of the place and wandered down another staircase to the basement. In the basement, I discovered an entire replica of the Stanley made out of Legos and an original ice chest that was used to keep food cold back in 1909. It was fascinating.

Since we had a long trip back to Fort Collins, I stopped my tour of the basement to use the restroom on that level. Everybody else wanted a sweet for the road, so they headed to the coffee bar nearby.  I was alone in the ladies’ room and thought it was odd that the busy hotel didn’t have more guests using the facility. It was quiet and really cold in the space. I don’t know if it was the temperature or something else, but I felt uneasy. I didn’t actually see or hear anything, but the experience gave me the chills. I don’t think I felt the presence of a ghost, it was just my imagination. I brushed it off and attributed it to the colder temperature down in the basement. I didn’t mention it to anyone, but I was both scared and intrigued. I thought I would really like to return and take one of those famous ghost tours offered at the hotel and perhaps, have Mrs. Wilson organize my room.


17th Century Thanksgiving


My girlfriend, Dawn, and I were feeling burned out. We met for coffee and started commiserating about our never-ending to-do lists. We had young families, demanding jobs, and tons of responsibilities. It was early October, and we recognized that soon, Halloween would be over. Then, it would be a mad rush to start the holidays. We both agreed that after a few years of hosting, the thought of all that holiday cooking was the last thing we felt like doing. I remembered that my brother and sister-in-law spent Thanksgiving in Plymouth, Massachusetts, one year with my nephews. They came back from the trip and raved about the living history experience.

I was a teacher at the time, with only a few short days to spend the break. I concluded that since Plymouth, Massachusetts, was the place where America’s Thanksgiving celebration began, it would be fun and educational for all of us. Dawn agreed, and our trip was set in motion. My kids were really excited to be traveling with Dawn’s family. She and her husband Alan had 11-year-old twin girls and a nine-year-old daughter. My twin girls were ten and loved spending time with them. We often got our two families together for day trips, but this would be a three-day vacation with another family! They were thrilled.

I did research. I found out that Plimouth Plantation was set-up as a living history experience. You could take a self-guided tour of the 17th Century English Village, Wampanoag Homesites, and then tour a full-scale replica of the Mayflower. The Mayflower was the ship that brought the pilgrims to Patuxet (Plymouth) in 1620. The Plantation also offered a Thanksgiving dinner with roast turkey and all the trimmings – New England style. I thought that would be fantastic, so I signed up for the meal and was able to secure an afternoon seating for our families on Thanksgiving Day.

That first day we arrived, we went to visit Plymouth Rock. The rock is the “supposed” landing point of the pilgrims, but there is some debate if that part of history is accurate. It is a memorial, though, so we went to see it. There was a white granite canopy erected to mark the place of the rock at the waterfront park, and it looked stately. Many years ago, the massive stone was moved to a different location. During the move, it broke, so only a fragment remained on the beach. When we got there, it was so cold outside that we gathered around the rock, looked at it for about five minutes, and remarked that we thought it would be bigger. Then we all laughed as we sprinted back to our cars to get warm. So much for that, I thought!

The hotel wasn’t fancy, but it was clean and offered an indoor swimming pool that had a water feature in the shape of the Mayflower. After dinner in one of the local restaurants, we spent our evening in the pool splashing around. We made it an early night as we had a long travel day.  We all agreed that our families needed to get up and get our day started early. We were all excited to spend Thanksgiving Day at the Plantation.

We arrived after breakfast and walked around the Wampanoag settlement. We went inside a bark-covered long house and observed how the women went about their chores, cooking over an open fire, and telling stories of their people. Our husbands chose to stay outside. They watched as a canoe was hollowed out by some of the men in the camp. The men used fire to burn the insides of long logs to create boats. Then, we walked through the Plantation, a grouping of houses that were reconstructed to resemble the first settlement. There we interacted with the Pilgrim actors who told tales of their terrible trip from England and their horrible first year in Massachusetts. We asked them questions about their daily life, and they never broke character to share their explanations. It was fascinating.

It took us about three hours to tour everything, and we were all getting hungry. We were ready to eat when it was time to be seated for our real “Thanksgiving” meal. The Pilgrims and Native Americans entered the room to engage with the guests. It seemed that it was going to be fun, but instead, we had to remain quiet to hear their monologues. The kids were really bored and started to fidget. The hunger was REAL. Finally, turkey arrived with gravy and various fixings. When we went to pass the platters, we noticed we had no knives or forks, only a spork to eat our meal. I guess the children were tired because they barely ate anything and started to complain about the food and the fact that we only had a spork to eat with. It was becoming an issue. I tasted everything and thought the turkey and gravy were decent, but the kids were not having any of it. They were upset that the food was “weird,” and they didn’t have their favorite sides. I looked at my husband and our friends. We agreed that the food was tasty, it was just the kids, they were whiny and tired. It was nothing but complaints, so we decided to duck out of Thanksgiving dinner.

At this point in the day, late afternoon on Thanksgiving, the only place left to eat was a take-out pizza place. We were lucky that they were open at all! We ordered three large pies and brought them back to the hotel, where we promptly ate our pizza in our adjoining hotel rooms. Then we spent the rest of the day swimming in the indoor pool. The kids were deliriously happy that they were done with all the history lessons and were able to scream and squeal in the water. They were not pleased about the fact that we had pizza for dinner on Thanksgiving, but it became one of the funny stories from that weekend. At least we all found the humor in it and had fun despite our lack of a proper Thanksgiving meal.

When you choose to travel on holiday with your kids, you have to be ready for some adjustments. When plans go south, you have to come up with a plan B, pretty quickly. I have to say that while it wasn’t the best trip we have taken, it wasn’t the worst either. I thoroughly enjoyed Plimouth Plantation. We learned a lot about the struggles of the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag people. They both had to survive the harsh conditions and share their land with each other. It was a difficult life. It made me think about all the reasons I had to be thankful and grateful. As we come to another Thanksgiving holiday, I reflect on that trip with a huge smile. It was memorable. To this day we laugh at the absurd events but remember them fondly.

I want to wish you all a happy Thanksgiving. And, if you are away from home on this day, I hope you have safe travels, food to share, and lots to be thankful for.

​A Tale of Two Cities

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Charles Dickens’ opening line from his novel, A Tale of Two Cities, “It was the best of times; It was the worst of times,” entered my mind. I was a passenger, crammed in the middle seat on a packed plane heading to Chicago from the Philadephia airport. We had just been informed by the pilot that we were on a hold. We would not be taking off until we got the go-ahead from the control tower at O’Hare. Apparently, a dense fog had settled over the airport in Chicago, making it difficult for planes to land, so we would continue to sit in the plane on the tarmac in Philadelphia until the hold was lifted.

While I know Dickens’ was reflecting on a time of opposites taking place across the English Channel with a much deeper meaning than I was experiencing at the moment, the words still resonated with me.  The phrase seemed to sum up exactly how I was feeling as I sat in my middle seat, trying to get to a writing conference and the contradiction made me chuckle. I was in an airplane meant to help passengers go all over the world, and yet, we weren’t going anywhere, at least not for a while. I was quietly suffering on one hand because I knew I was going to miss my connection, and I was experiencing joy on the other, because I was going to a city I had never been to before, to speak to fellow writers. I love writing and I love exploring.

I stared out of the window on that beautiful sunny day in Philly and wondered what I would experience in Chicago once I finally landed. Unfortunately, my morning went from bad to worse.  We were delayed for about 30 minutes and after we took off, the pilot told us we could make up time in the air. After being hopeful that I would get to my connection, my afternoon deteriorated into an entire day spent waiting for my next plane which (after being delayed three times) finally got cancelled by 10:00 pm that evening. Once I was able to re-book a new flight for the next morning, I had a tough time getting a hotel room on such short notice especially with hundreds of other people scrambling to get one too. It was a rough night for a whole bunch of travellers.

I fly a lot and I am used to delays. Sadly, delays are a part of the process when traveling, and yet, I still continue to make airline reservations. I always have that excitement about an upcoming trip where I will have a chance to immerse myself in another place and see things I haven’t seen before. I guess you could compare it to having a baby? There is a common notion that even though childbirth is difficult and painful, once the baby arrives you love it so much that you forget the pain. I wouldn’t know, I had a C-Section and after having twins, decided our family was complete. But, keeping that analogy in mind, the intrepid travelers I know don’t seem to let it stop them. We will meet over coffee and share our travel nightmare stories, and once the stories conclude, we eagerly discuss our next destinations. I guess the pain of traveling goes away because of the love of exploration.  At least I find comfort in knowing that I am not the only one who suffers in order to experience the joys of getting there. I am in good company.


Home Away From Home


I will never forget our first vacation to Kiawah Island, South Carolina. I was talking about getting away that summer with some women in my playgroup. Our girls were four at the time, and I was looking for suggestions for a trip. My friend mentioned how wonderful their vacation was to Kiawah the year before. She recommended we consider a holiday there as it was perfect for young families. After some research about the resort, I decided to make a reservation.

We flew to Charleston, South Carolina with our four-year-old twins and rented a car for the short trip to the island. We planned to hit the beach, swim in the pool, play some golf and tennis, and try and get some alone time as a couple. We knew it was a tall order, but ultimately, we hoped to get some rest and relaxation and make some great family memories.


The resort was everything we dreamed about and actually a lot more. The beach was wide and flat, and the ocean was warm. The waves were gentle, so it was perfect for the girls to splash around in the water. During low tide, huge pools were left behind on the beach near the water’s edge, teeming with marine life. The girls would wade into the water and watch tiny fish swim around their ankles. It made for an entertaining afternoon. We found some intricate shells and enjoyed walking along the sand, trying to find the perfect additions to our collection. We took a short drive to Bohicket Marina and loved watching the boats come in while licking our ice cream on the dock. That trip made such an impression on us that we decided to return. The next visit, we loved our experience so much, we purchased a small villa so that we could always have a home away from home.


We returned over and over again, enjoying the wonders of nature combined with the beautiful facilities. Kiawah’s developers had always tried to balance the nature sanctuary with tourism, so it allowed visitors to marvel at the wildlife and also respect their habitats. We would bike around the island and notice an alligator sunning itself on the edge of a pond. Or, climb up a tower on the marsh and observe the various birds that made their home among the verdant grasses. We made sure to follow the rules about the sea turtles nests and respect the space of the dolphins as they hunted for food in the inlet. As time went on and our girls started growing up, we opted to sell our special place to allow for visits to other destinations. And while it seemed like the right decision at the time, we always longed to go back.


17 years later, we still adore Kiawah Island. We went back in the summer of 2017, and when we thought about where we wanted to go this summer, we all agreed that we wanted to go back to Kiawah. The island is changing and growing and developing, but some things still remain the same. The air always smells just the way we remember it, a mix of flowers, salt, and earth. The She Crab soup is still perfectly creamy with that delicious hint of sherry. The sunset over the marsh is just as stunning today with its mixture of orange, pink, and purple as it was the first time, we saw it. The alligators are still coexisting with humans on the golf course and always get the right of way. And, the beach is still as wide, and the water is still as warm and gentle as it was when the girls were four.


Kiawah is our home away from home. While we have traveled abroad and spent time out west and in New England, we keep coming back to this beautiful barrier island that captured our hearts so many years ago. I hope that someday, I will splash in the tidal pools with the next generation of my family as our lives continue to evolve and grow and change over time.